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I'm a 49 year old man. I think and feel like I'm from another time, another planet. Most people instantly like me. I've been blessed with many amazing friends over the years and yet, never really had anyone to hold nor anyone to hold me. I'm clinically disappointed. My life now holds more regrets than dreams. I'm gay. There's obviously something wrong with my tastes when it comes to men. I've been exclusively attracted to young men for as long as I can remember. When I was in my twenties, I was attracted to men in their twenties. When I was in my thirties, I was only attracted to men in their twenties. They were rarely attracted to me. Now, in my forties (soon to be fifty), I find myself still exclusively attracted to young men. Young men are not interested in me. In Los Angeles, the gay culture puts you out to pasture if you're over thirty. I'm reasonably good looking, outgoing, kind, gentle, with a great sense of humor, to young men, I am invisible. This is understandable, but how does one change what one is attracted to? There's more than my ageism that frustrates me. I appreciate effeminate men, however, they do nothing for me sexually. There's also the current trend in gay culture that is a complete turn-off for me —a seemingly majority of guys removing all their body hair. I find chest hair and pubic hair very sexy. To my eyes, a hairless handsome dude just looks like an overgrown twelve-year old. The only hairy men left are either straight or generally obese 'bears'. These are my 'tastes' and I'm sincerely not trying to be a snob. With my warped perspective, I'm doomed to never even begin to develop a relationship. The fashionable hairlessness movement can be tolerated cuz hair has the chance of growing back. But with my age prejudice, I'm f**ked cuz I can never grow young. I'm stuck in a hopeless dead end. Is there any hope for me and my conundrum(s)? read more…

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My wife and I have been married for over 6 years, we got married young, 20 & 22. But her past has always bothered me she had been with 9 guys before me. I keep reading about this subject and I know the past is the past and to just leave it in the past. But my problem is my wife told me she slept with guys to get the attention and the affection. As soon as the guy stop giving her those items she would find another new fling. Well after we got married I made the mistake of judging her harshly about her past because I had only been with 3 women before her and all of which I was serious about. I was always taught Sex is the most sacred part of marriage and that was when you were suppose to engage in it, Catholic School for 12 years. Now 6 years later I have caused her to clam up about sex and she feels too vulnerable about opening up about sex because of how hard I was on her early on in our marriage. I know I was wrong for holding this over her head and I have apologized a million times. But she really has a tough time being intimate with me. She also had an abortion when she was 19, which she truly hates herself for what she did. It bothers her a lot. We have two wonderful healthy sons now and she is a teacher in a Catholic school. She feels as if she is a hypocrite because she teaches this children how premarital sex is wrong and abortion is a mortal sin. She is truly sorry about her abortion, But we have no idea how to help her become more affectionate. We are thinking about going into counseling again, or if just she should go? I want to help her with her baggage as I have baggage too just not of the sexual nature. read more…

My husband has been going through severe depression for almost a year now. It manifested itself physically, so he was only diagnosed a few months ago. He is on medication and doing some what better. I have researched and read all materials online I can find. I have been incredibly supportive and he shows me on a regular basis that he is appreciative. I adore him and won't give up. However, we have had almost no sex life in a year! Sex has been a big part of our relationship. I stay strong for him every day. He goes to bed and I cry for hours. I'm afraid to let him know how I feel, because I don't want him to feel worse than he already does. It has been so long since we've been intimate in any way. And honestly I can't even kiss him anymore because it sets me off. I need him. Self gratification isn't working either. My fantasies consist of him which only depresses me. What should I do? read more…

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My wife and I have been married for over 6 years, we got married young, 20 & 22. But her past has always bothered me she had been with 9 guys before me. I keep reading about this subject and I know the past is the past and to just leave it in the past. But my problem is my wife told me she slept with guys to get the attention and the affection. As soon as the guy stop giving her those items she would find another new fling. Well after we got married I made the mistake of judging her harshly about her past because I had only been with 3 women before her and all of which I was serious about. I was always taught Sex is the most sacred part of marriage and that was when you were suppose to engage in it, Catholic School for 12 years. Now 6 years later I have caused her to clam up about sex and she feels too vulnerable about opening up about sex because of how hard I was on her early on in our marriage. I know I was wrong for holding this over her head and I have apologized a million times. But she really has a tough time being intimate with me. She also had an abortion when she was 19, which she truly hates herself for what she did. It bothers her a lot. We have two wonderful healthy sons now and she is a teacher in a Catholic school. She feels as if she is a hypocrite because she teaches this children how premarital sex is wrong and abortion is a mortal sin. She is truly sorry about her abortion, But we have no idea how to help her become more affectionate. We are thinking about going into counseling again, or if just she should go? I want to help her with her baggage as I have baggage too just not of the sexual nature. read full article…

My partner and I have been together almost 10 years now, which may as well be a century in lesbian terms. We have a great relationship. Don’t get me wrong we have our ups and down like everyone else; even had some really big downs, but we’ve always managed to work it out. There is only one issue that keeps rearing its ugly head. I don’t like sex. Don’t get me wrong, sex feels wonderful when I have it. I don’t have any long-standing issues with sex. I’ve always been very open-minded and experimental, but it seems the older I get, the less I want to do it. My partner is the first person I’ve ever been with where I didn’t have to fake an orgasm. I think she is sexy and fun and when I do finally give in and “just do it” I have a great time. My only complaint is that it takes SO LONG for me to reach orgasm. My orgasms are fantabulous! But it takes a long time (like 1 hour +) and a lot of hard work on both our parts to make it happen. Because of this, no matter how great it is, I just don’t feel like doing it! It’s gotten to the point where if she even mentions it, I groan to myself (not out loud) and want to roll my eyes and huff and puff. I just don’t want to. It has created a very large wall between us, like the white elephant in the room. It’s always there hanging over our heads. She always wants it, I always don’t. She doesn’t understand how someone could dislike doing something so great and to be honest, I have to agree with her. It is great, so why don’t I like to do it? Am I just that lazy? It bothers me badly and makes me depressed and defensive, but I just haven’t found a solution. We’ve tried staying apart for months at a time on purpose just to take the pressure off. We’ve tried new and interesting and sometimes “kinky” things to try and get the momentum going. We’ve talked and cried and every time I think it’s going to change, and it does for a week or two, but then I just get tired of it again. Is this totally unheard of? What’s wrong with me? I am hoping that you or someone out there has heard of this before and might have some tips. read full article…

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Kate Hudson Was Worried A-Rod Would Cheat…You Think? Actress Archives It sounded like she was talking about how guys have such a sex drive, they just can't help it. It was clear Kate and A-Rod were fighting or had broken up … Goldie Hawn's Advice To Kate Hudson: Take The High RoadAHN Kate Splits with A-Rod Due to Lack of TrustInternational Business Times Australia all 368 news articles »

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I have started a sexual relationship with my boss and he is married but his wife is not intimate with him so he turned to me but the problem is when we have intercourse we do not use protection! He pulls out! now by doing this can he still get me pregnant i know he has got no sexually transmitted diseases and he does not suit condoms and i am allergic to the pill. Also I have feelings for him and he flirts with other women in front of me and it gets me angry. He is starting to mess with my head! he is 30 years older than me and knows how to get to me. please can you answer my problems? read more…

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my boyfriend and i have been together for 11 years , since high school, we have a 9 year old son and a 3month old baby girl. Since i gave birth my boyfriend treats me like his sister. He stop hugging me, kissing is none existence its like we are roommates. i don't know what to do it hurts so bad because before the baby he use to be all over me now he laughs when i ask for a hug or a kiss because i know sex is out of the picture if he won't even hug me anymore unless i beg him to. i shouldn't have to! read more…

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Hi Anne, Hoping you can help with what has become a serious problem for me. I have never been comfortable naked and have only recently realized that it may even be an issue for me. I was raised in a very modest house with parents who were not affectionate with each other. My mother was sexually abused as a child and I do think this has impacted my level of feeling shame about my body. Despite this and despite the fact that it has been 20 years since I wore a swimming suit out in daylight, I have had a few successful sexual relationships in my early 20's some lasting years without this being a real issue. I don't have issues with being naked while in the "act" with a partner when lights are low, but when "on display" ,even while dressing, it doesn't feel right. I feel vulnerable and uncomfortable – the farthest from sexy. Now nearing 30 and recently married, I am just now realizing that my husband takes enormous offense to my modesty. It has affected our sex-life because he feels like I don't trust him and he thinks being denied nude peeks at me takes away from his excitement and interest in me. On the flip-side, I feel like I can't trust him because he isn't sensitive or encouraging since he takes it personally and that he doesn't find me attractive because all I feel is the animosity – the cycle just worsens. In my gut, I don't think I will ever be the naked bunny running around the house that he wants me to be – even with the right kind of encouragement. Am I a freak for being so modest? I was very open with my husband about my sensitivities while dating, why is this coming up now? My husband believes that I will never be happy with anyone if I can't be comfortable being naked around the house. Do you believe that this is really true? In most regards, I actually think I am a sane, happy person and happy to be who I am – save this one thing…. I am feeling passively-aggressively bullied by my beloved. Is it really my fault? Help? Thanks, Sarah read full article…